Movements

Every relationship is a dance where the body speaks the truths that the tongue is too afraid to utter. A reflection on the space between two people and the rhythm of instinct.

​Every relationship is like a dance that follows music. We dance as the music carries us; we follow the steps. While our partner moves away, we imperceptibly follow their steps and try to draw closer; sometimes we try to diminish that distance, that separation, by reaching out our hands, filling that space, that gap. In those moments, our feeling tells us we are closer, that only a tiny bit of air stands between us. Sometimes we pause at the end of a song, waiting for another, more inspiring one to begin, and then, due to a lack of confidence, we uncertainly begin to withdraw; we take a few steps back and fail to see that with those steps, we haven't brought our partner closer, but forced them to follow us—imperceptibly, gently, in the rhythm of the situation. Now their hands sway; they are attempting the same thing our own hands were doing just a few moments before. We can be furious, angry, calm, kind, gentle, airy, anything at all—but body language is always the same, always in accordance with the situation. Always more honest than words. It always goes after that which is leaving it; it always reaches out toward that which it cannot touch. It is so natural and instinctive that we don’t even pay attention; we don’t notice the constant dance of any two people who find themselves in any situation whatsoever. With our hands, we always do what we cannot find the right word for. We turn those unspoken words into movements; with our steps, we influence the distance. And nothing about it is complicated; everything is as clear as day except for ourselves—except for that insecurity of ours which listens only to spoken words. The insecurity that does not understand movements and steps, that perhaps is not capable of understanding and feeling that very dance. But still, it dances, or at least it tries to dance…

​The most beautiful dancing happens when you surrender to the music and let the situation manage your body. When it is relaxed, it moves on its own exactly as it should—not as you want it to…